When was the last time you felt lost?
Lost in your job
Lost in your relationship(s)
Heck, you could’ve gotten lost on the way to work.
But the feeling is the same.
You had a destination you wanted to get to
But you ended up wandering around feeling a lack of direction.
It happens to all of us.
And it happens more times than we’d like to admit
The key is to embrace it and enjoy life while you’re lost.
But as humans, we don’t like to feel lost.
It goes against our instincts.
Think about hundreds (and thousands) of years ago.
If you were lost, it could mean life or death.
Civilization wasn’t the same as it is now.
The odds of you running into a CVS or Walmart if you got lost in the year 1356 were very slim…
So naturally, we avoid any sense of feeling “directionless”
We try to fight feeling lost by:
Asking random people where to go
Asking friends and family what we should do
Watching endless YouTube videos to find the answers
Reading countless blog posts to come up with a solution
Binge-scrolling social media to find a guru that’s been in our shoes
And ignoring the feeling of being lost altogether by doing drugs, alcohol, etc…
But what if I told you that none of those “quick fixes” were the answer?
What if the answer to feeling lost is actually…
Embracing the fact that you’re lost
Hear me out for a second
What if the fact that you’re trying to avoid feeling lost is the reason you’re feeling lost???
Crazy concept, huh?
I’ll explain.
Usually, when I write these blog posts, it’s about “How To” do something.
I start off with “Something I Used to Struggle With”
And I end the article with “How To Overcome the Struggle.”
For example, “How to Create a personal brand in Salesforce Marketing Cloud”
Those are simple and easy-to-follow instructions.
And people love them.
It gives people direction and purpose.
Which is what everyone is looking for
But what if life isn’t always about giving people a destination to follow?
What if life is about talking to people?
Embracing them where they’re at.
Think about something as simple as a phone call.
Sometimes, you call someone and just want to talk to them about their life.
Life isn’t always about: “Listen to me… I’m a guru, and I have the answers for you”
Most of the time in life, we just want a good quality conversation.
As we’re having conversations, things stick out to us.
We recognize things that relate to our lives.
And things start to make more sense.
But we’re not always trying to find the answer to life.
Sometimes, the answers to life reveal themselves through natural conversation.
Here’s the issue with always looking externally for the answers to your life
Nobody is YOU
Nobody knows what you should do.
You already know what the right thing to do is
You already know what you’re supposed to do.
You just want confirmation from someone else that you’re doing the right things
but the thing about “The right thing” is that it’s obvious to you
Think about it.
If you’ve been in a bad relationship (whether its dating someone or being at the wrong job)
You know that the relationship is bad.
And you know what you need to do.
Asking for advice just soothes your ego.
You know you should break up with the person or quit the job.
You just want to hear someone else say it.
The answers are within you, and they always have been
So… that leads me to my final point.
Why you should embrace feeling lost
You’re supposed to learn the lesson in the season of life you’re in
Thats it. You’re in a season.
You can’t skip seasons.
You have to endure them.
This is your life journey.
You’re supposed to figure it out.
Nobody has ever experienced your life before
You’re the first and only person who has ever experienced what you’re experiencing in life.
Sure, people have experienced the ups and downs of life, and there’s a lot of overlap.
But Nobody has done it from your unique perspective.
If you’re going to add to the collective well-being of society, you have to endure the ups and downs of life and figure it out for yourself.
Nobody can figure your life out for you.
A lot of times, people just want to feel better about their situation.
They don't always NEED to find the answer in the moment.
It's not your job to give people the answer all the time.
Sometimes, you’re just a messenger along someone’s life journey.
And they're making a pit stop along the way.
you just so happen to be the character in their journey that welcomes them into the
shop to give them a cup of tea and have a nice conversation with them
Think of The Alchemist.
The boy in the book had a dream to see the pyramids.
But he met many interesting characters along the way.
Each one of those characters taught him something new.
None of those characters were his final destination.
They were a piece of the journey on the way to the destination.
When the boy got to his destination, he realized that each person had actually been an important piece to figuring everything out.
That’s how I want to be with people.
It’s how I want to be in my writing.
It’s how I want to be in every conversation.
Sure, I want to show someone the formula for success and give them the key to prosperity.
But I won’t (and can’t) be that to everyone all the time
I have to accept the fact that I’m just a pitstop along the way.
There will be people who read an article and never read another one.
There will be people who watch a YouTube video and never see another.
And that’s okay.
And that should be okay with you, too.
There are 8 billion people on this planet.
You’ll run into someone this week that you’ll never see again.
And that’s the way life is supposed to work.
We’re moving at a speed we’ve never moved at before in human history.
Life is constant
Just when we get used to things, life changes
And that’s the beauty of life.
Welcome the change
Welcome the constant movement
Welcome the fact that you won't have life figured out every day
Life isn’t about formulas and step-by-step processes.
More times than not, life is about feeling lost.
You’re not supposed to have it figured out.
In those moments, embrace life for what it is
Talk to someone new.
Embrace a conversation fully.
Learn the lessons right in front of you.
Enjoy the journey.
Kaelan Moss - MinuteAdmin Out ✌🏽
PS - if you want something to help you. Here’s what has helped me.
A series of questions to figure out who you are - so you can learn more about yourself while you’re figuring your life out.
Remember, only you can create the direction for your life based on these questions.
Here are the questions
What brings you happiness?
What activities make you the happiest
If you had a billion dollars and money wasn't an issue, what would you create every day?
If you could hang out with anyone, what type of person would you hang out with?
If you could live anywhere, what city would you live in and why?
If you could do any outdoor activity every single day, what would you do and why?
If you had a health routine that you HAD to follow every day for the rest of your life, what would it be and why?
If you put something out into the world every single day to help other humans, what would it be, and why?
What have you been avoiding?
Do you feel better when you face the music and do what you’ve been avoiding?
Why have you been avoiding it, and will it help you feel unstuck if you do it?
Now, my challenge to you is this:
Answer the questions above.
Create something (From the heart)
Share what you create with the world every day for the next 7 days.
Don’t worry about people’s feedback.
Share what you made.
Tell the world who it’s for
And tell the world why you made it.
That’s it
You can share it with 1 person or 1 million people.
It doesn’t matter.
The challenge is to share with others.
See if that changes your perspective.
Give back in life and watch your purpose unfold.
Kaelan Moss - MinuteAdmin Officially Out ✌🏽✌🏽
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